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Self discipline

Self Discipline is the ability to:

  • make yourself do what you know you should do
  • know when you should do it
  • know whether you feel like it or not!

Disciplined people know what has to be done and they do it.  They don’t put it off until later or allow themselves to be easily taken off track.  And, most importantly, they focus on being self-disciplined with activities that move them toward their goals.

There’s a big difference between having self-discipline with tasks that move you toward your goals and tasks that do not move you towards your goals at all.  It’s usually more challenging activities and tasks that will help you reach your goals than those of less importance.  For example, it is easy to spend time helping to bake cookies (being helpful in the kitchen) than to spend an hour reading Biology notes (studying).

There are two kinds of discipline,

  • Parent-discipline

Parent-discipline is when parents are constantly telling you what you need to do. For example,” put your dirty washing in the laundry basket”.

  • Self-discipline

Self-discipline is when you are taking care of certain things without reminders from your parents!  When you pick up after yourself, clean your room without being told and do your homework on your own.

Think of a goal that you have set for yourself

What do you need to do to achieve your goal?

  • wake up and go to bed early
  • manage my time – spend less time playing games or on social media
  • spend more time going over my biology notes
  • study in a suitable place away from distractions like the tv
  • try to finish my chores without delaying

List all of your  responsibilities and put them in order of importance

Your list of responsibilities should include: school, home, extra mural, and leisure activities.

Place these responsibilities in order of importance and have a discussion with your family about your priorities. In other words, agree that homework and studying are more important than chores and should be done first.  Remember that the self-disciplined person does more important goal-oriented activities first.

  • Homework
  • Exam revision
  • Dry the dishes
  • Pack school bag
  • TV & Games

Create a routine

When you understand what’s important by the goals that you have set, it will be easy to establish a comfortable routine for you to follow.  Your routine should include all the activities on your list. The more organised you become and the more time planning every responsibility in order of importance, the more disciplined you will be.  The idea is to follow a routine for the entire week without change or distraction.  Just remember to stick to a fun routine so it becomes habit.

Self-discipline can be hard. Reward your effort!

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