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Sometimes when parents get divorced, they might meet someone new and start a relationship with them. They might even get remarried. When a step mom or step dad, (and step- brothers and sisters) come into the family there are sometimes many changes. Because it is all new to everyone, and everyone has different opinions, feelings and experiences, there can be disagreements about lots of things.

Learning to cope with stepparents, stepbrothers and stepsisters can be a tough and lonely experience. There can be pressure to be a ‘perfect family’, but it takes time to get to know one another.  Sharing how you feel can be a great start.

It’s a really good idea to talk with the whole family about how you would really like things to be. If you are scared to do that, try talking to another adult that you trust. Ask them for support, and to help you find the right words. Then all of you could decide together what the new family way of being and rules are going to be. Rules are important to help different people live and work together respectfully, so it’s important for them to be fair for everybody

If you’re struggling to get on with your new family, you don’t have to worry about it on your own. You could try talking to your parents about how you feel. If you feel that you can’t talk to them, you can always talk to a counsellor at Childline – 116

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